NYU Professor Scott Galloway recently discussed the increasing rates of teen depression and self-harm, attributing the trend to societal shifts and overly protective parenting styles.

The Rise in Teen Mental Health Challenges

Speaking on the April 21st episode of Craig Melvin’s “Glass Half Full” podcast, Galloway referenced research by social psychologist Jonathan Haidt and San Diego State psychology professor Jean Twenge, who have extensively studied adolescent mental health.

“Concierge” Parenting and its Consequences

Galloway identified what he calls “concierge” or “bulldozer” parenting – actively removing obstacles for children – as a significant contributor to the problem. This approach, while well-intentioned, hinders the development of coping mechanisms and resilience.

He illustrated this with examples of parents intervening over grades or immediately seeking tutoring, creating a frictionless existence for their children. This can lead to a “princess and the pea syndrome,” where even minor discomfort is intolerable.

Observations at New York University

The professor noted a rise in students at New York University struggling with mental health and suicidal ideation, often triggered by relatively minor challenges. These students, shielded from adversity, lack the emotional tools to navigate these experiences.

The Importance of Rejection

Galloway contends that the ability to withstand “no” is crucial for success in any field. He stated that those who achieve significant accomplishments must be prepared for substantial rejection.

He emphasized that success often comes to those with privilege or those comfortable hearing “no,” viewing it not as weakness but as a component of growth.

Galloway’s Personal Experience

Galloway shared his own experiences with rejection, including being initially rejected by colleges, accepted to only one of nine graduate schools, and receiving one job offer after applying for thirty positions.

He also recounted facing rejection in his personal life, losing every election for class president and experiencing numerous romantic rejections. He emphasized that these experiences built his resilience.

Building Emotional “Calluses”

Galloway described a process of emotional adaptation, where initial upset subsided, leading to acceptance and the development of “calluses” – emotional toughness. Each rejection taught him valuable lessons and strengthened his perseverance.

Embracing “No” to Achieve “Yes”

Galloway’s core message is that achieving success requires a willingness to endure rejection. He encourages individuals to pursue opportunities beyond their perceived capabilities, relationships with those they admire, and connections with people they respect.

By consistently facing potential rejection, individuals can cultivate the resilience needed to navigate life’s challenges and achieve their goals. He advocates for fostering an environment where children can learn to cope with failure and thrive.