Three First Date Questions to Determine if Your Partner is Emotionally Available Relationship coach Sabrina Zohar has shared three vital questions that she believes everyone should ask during a first date to determine if their potential suitor is a good match. A relationship coach has sparked a debate as she shared the three vital questions that she believes everyone should ask during a first date to determine if their potential suitor is a good match. Sabrina Zohar, 36, frequently shares advice for those seeking love - as well as those already coupled up - to her 1.8 million TikTok followers. Recently, the California-based love specialist revealed the things you should inquire about when meeting a new love interest for the first time to help you figure out if they're the one for you.Essential First Date Questions To Assess Emotional AvailabilityWhile most people tend to ask about the basics, like career aspirations or favorite hobbies, Zohar explained that there are more important topics to discuss on a first date. She began by saying that if you're scared to ask these questions you need to consider your emotional availability and if you're actually ready for a healthy and secure relationship. The first question she recommended was: Who is the person that you call when everything is either going right or wrong?This is to see how emotionally available this person is. If they answer and say they don't have anyone or they deal with it themselves, then that might make you say that maybe this person isn't comfortable expressing their emotions or doesn't feel safe in order to do so with the people in their surroundings.Next, she suggested that you ask potential partners: What is something that you're working on within yourself right now that you're proud of? She doesn't want them to say they're working on becoming a better person, that's too vague. She listed a few better answers, such as working on not shutting down when things get really tough, or working on not being as reactive.How To Gauge Self Reflection And Personal Growth On A DateYou'll be able to see how much work this person has actually done based on how they answer. Last but not least, Zohar said the third question you should ask during a date is: What is a belief that you've outgrown in the last few years? She explained that the inquiry will give you insight into your partner's ability to self-reflect.A person who is emotionally available can name something they've outgrown, versus a shallow answer will be something like they used to not like cilantro. Zohar's advice divided viewers, as some praised her tips and others claimed the questions were a little too much to ask on a first date.